I need you to push me into the deep end of the blog pool.

Alright, friends. Or, is it just Grandma reading this? (Hi, Grandma.)

I need to talk to you.

And then I need you to talk to me and answer my questions at the end.

I feel like that 8 year old that tells you every recess of 2nd grade that he is going to be an astronaut, and you’re like, “Yay, Jared R.! You’ll make it! Dream big!” even though you know, in twenty years, Jared R. is going to be a colonic hydrotherapist.

I’m worried I’m Jared R. I’ve been worried about being Jared R. for about two and a half years now.

…but, I think I’m going to do this. THIS. This blog thing. Sort of.

I am so hungry for a return to the literary world! About six months ago, I found myself digging out an old Hawthorne book to read a few of his stories before bed. If you know anything about Nathaniel Hawthorne, you know that’s a little unsettling. Talk about dark bedtime reading.

That’s when I knew: I’m in. I miss writing. I need to put down Hawthorne, and get my Jared on.

So, I looked into a master’s of literature program at my local university, and I was sold. After discussing it with Brian, I realized this is far from the ideal time of life to be going back to school. I work in an unrelated field, I have a one year old and two year old, and I’d have to take out student loans. There really is no monetary benefit to advancing my education, and I don’t think recreational schooling is an option in my life right now.

The alternative? Writing HERE. Regularly. Holding myself accountable. Stretching myself. Pushing myself. Making this my little “masters” project for the time being. Brian encouraged it, but I feel hesitant, like I’ve felt for years. But, the butterflies in my stomach tell me I have to push myself now, or kick myself later for shying away from something I love.

Listen, if I’m going to “blog,” and tell people about it, it’s important to ME that you know the following things:

My intent is not to be well known. My intent is to polish up my rusty writing, be consistent, and hopefully stumble upon a freelance opportunity, editorial work, or get future pieces published.

I’m not trying to convince you I’m pretty.

I am resistant to being a blogger. You know, a blogggggger. I feel like the universe will insist I eat macarons in my bed and wear Louboutins to Costco, and while my dozen or so fashion blogging friends are gorgeous make it look fabulous, it’s not authentic to my life right at this moment. I would love to dress up, and I’m definitely a girly, sparkly, lipsticky girl, but I already have a separate, energy intensive job. The days I have laying around with my babies in jammies, not caring how crazy my house looks are days I treasure. But you other bloggers? Giiiiit it, girls.

I feel super vulnerable and a little nervous, because this is personal. It’s my personal life and thoughts, not just clothes, or great deals, or recipes. This is my life. What the heck else am I going to write about?

Questions for you—

Do you think the “visual aid” part of social media (ie blogs) is weighed heavily in it’s success?

How do we collectively feel about posting photos of kids on a public platform?

Is this an okay idea?

Can I post just like, once or twice a week in lieu of an actual “homework assignment”?

Do you want me and Jared R. to wave to you from the moon?

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  1. I LOVE IT!!!! I have always known that you were destined for great things. Yes you are doing great things now with your little family….but you have a larger than larger capacity… you can do many things without letting home and children suffer. Life is to be lived….writing about it can help many, many people….if anything, but to inspire them to do likewise.
    Your family will benefit in ways that are unknown now….but will come to light one day when you are truly in print and influencing others with you ideas and dreams.
    I love you and have always been so proud of who you are.

  2. Doooooo iiiittt. You’d be amazing. And I LOVE reading what you write. I think photos are huge. It’s annoying, but it’s true. Not sure about the kid thing?? I haven’t posted my own kids on my public ig because it makes me nervous, but I keep thinking maybe I should because it helps
    People relate?? Don’t know. Regardless, you have my full support!!

  3. Friend! It’s your blog, and you are a wonderful writer! Write whatever you want, and we will read it. xoxo

  4. Ashton, yessss. I want to give Brian a big high five for encouraging you to write more!!! Pics are great but not necessary, kids pics are fair game. Throw out the doubts. Your writing leaves others feeling good and thinking deeper. Go for it! At least twice a week.. that’s a killer goal for a mom with a 1 and 2 year old. …I just love Ashton-isms! Can’t wait for more!!

  5. I can’t wait to read about your adventures! You out a smile on my face every time I see you, and this will be like a weekly (or more) visit! Yay! Be brave and do this! You will be awesome!

  6. I’ll read your blog religiously mostly because I think you’re so damn hilarious and I need some Ashton humor in my life again! Get at it girl! Stoked!!

  7. You won’t regret writing life’s happenings down-they will be cherished! A gift to yourself and many others👍

  8. Ashton!!!! Write away, Girl! I have been told by other writers that the best way to start writing is to….start writing. You have a wonderful ability to express yourself in ways that capture an audience and I think that you have to tap into that ability to feel the fulness of who you are! I for one would enjoy reading your stories!! They make me laugh, make me nod my head in agreement, make me feel the connection to the sisterhood of mothers. I look forward to reading whatever you decide to share. Consider yourself pushed!!!

  9. Ummmm YES! I really want you to do this! Writing and literature are such a part of you!!! You are so witty and articulate.
    I do think the visual part of blogs is a huge deal.
    And I have conflicted feelings about kids photos on blogs with this kind of potential platform.
    Honestly, I love reading your blog and look forward to this!

  10. Um, you giiittt it girl! You have such a talent! To answer your questions, I think the visual part of a blog is important, but the meat of it is far more important to me. So just sprinkle in some photos here and there. And personally, I’m usually fine with photos of kids, but it does make me a little nervous when they are out there for the whole world to see, save, copy, paste, you get the idea. But please post to FB every time! I love your blog!

  11. JARED R….. JARED R!!! Oh how I have been waiting for this. I’m crying and choked on my apple after reading this. You go Ashton. A macaroon-less real life blog is what we all need, and I can’t think of anyone better suited. I agree with everything Alias said, I think she’s the one that got me emotional just now. You know my answers to all the questions, but I want Jared R to wave from the moon.

  12. You are a great writer! You should definitely express yourself through this talent. As long as you stay true to yourself, it will be amazing and a wonderful “journal” for your boys to read some day.

  13. Ashton!! I (embarassingly) follow bloggers and yours is hands down my favorite to read!! Seriously, keep it up I love it! <3 As to your questions, I think the visual aid of the blog on social media definitely draws people in, but the content is the best part! Good luck and keep it up with the Gus and Roscoe pics cause everyone needs a little garbage truck/car wash lovin in their life.

  14. You go for it Ashton. You are insightful, funny,and original!! I have very few Facebook friends but I will share your blogposts with great honor.

  15. Claire has been enjoying your blog for a long time. I, personally think, that no one as beautiful as you should be quite so articulate. It feeds into my sense of insecurity from not having been a cheerleader in high school. Go for it You have a unique and lovely voice. Good luck. Also, I can tell you from working on my Master’s at UNLV with a 1 and 3 year old, that skipping to the UNLV Library to think big people thoughts with a donut and a Diet Coke was sometimes totally worth it it… On the other hand, having a master’s degree didn’t make me any smarter or more valuable. Possibly just a bit more pompous.

    1. Haha! You are my hero, for so many reasons. I need to chat with you one day about the program, AND about what your donut of choice is! I just hope you got an extra cord or a bedazzled gown for completeing a master’s program with young kids. Talk about impressive!

  16. Ashton, I knew you many years ago. Your mom was such an inspiration to me. I enjoy reading blogs with visual aids in them. I love seeing pictures of friends’ children, but I worry a little about having them “out there” for strangers to see. I would love for you and Jared R. to wave to me from the moon. Looking forward to reading your blog!

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